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Lanie's Tips and Advice for Joining a Dating Service

1. If you are nervous, remember so are most people. But if your heart is ready and open, you have much to gain in terms of getting to know yourself better, getting acquainted or reacquainted with dating at your own pace -- and ultimately maybe finding that special someone. Loneliness is at the root of many of our troubles. It sure was mine. Nudge the universe. Know how brave you are!

2. If you wish the profile form described you in more depth, it can't. No form is able to adequately express your essence. Once you join, however, you will answer five more fun questions about yourself for your matches to see, giving you a chance to express yourself more fully. But the adventure is in meeting folks in person -- getting to know each other better and learning how you relate to each other. Just as you are, others are far more interesting than you might imagine from their profiles. I am trying to match you with enough people who you are compatible with at a high level, so the right one will eventually appear. I started with Bud with only one sentence description and the rest is history.

3. If you think meeting someone through a dating service isn't romantic enough or the normal way, remember that with over 50 percent of adults single, there is no normal way. The people we get are very proactive about their lives. The institutions just aren't in place for people to meet the way they might have years ago. And once you connect with that special someone, it doesn't matter how you met. More importantly this is about finding the right person, not just any person, and there is nothing more powerful or satisfying than that. Believe me, no matter how you met, it feels like destiny.

4. Do your homework on Internet Dating.

5. We do this by the year because people like the pace. It gives you a better chance to meet the right folks and make a healthy decision for yourself. And this way you can be assured that everyone is on the same page, serious about meeting people and not playing games.

6. If you think your soul mate only will come in a certain package, stay open. Ask why you'll deprive yourself of a wonderful life companion because he or she might not have the "right" hair color. So often, people end up with the perfect person for them who may not be not exactly as they envisioned them to be.

7. If you are a woman in your 60's or older, the process may be more difficult. I don't encourage or discourage. It is up to you. We are getting great fellows. I had no idea what the database or demographics were when I met Bud, but I took a chance. It only takes one. Happily, we have had so many great "success" stories for women in their 50's and 60's and even some in their 70's in our five years of business.

8. Help each other and yourselves by going for it and telling your friends. Yes, I want to stay in business. I feel I am doing important work. But when I get calls saying "Thank you, Lanie, I have met him or her," I am so grateful that you did it and took the chance. The more of you we have in the system, the more likely these successes will keep happening.

9. Don't let minor setbacks get you and keep your sense of humor!

10. If you think we are different from the Internet, speed dating, personal ads and other dating services, we are. We really are personal, private, local, affordable, and about compatibility. Your personal information will not be available over the Internet for all to see. I am here to guide you, to listen, and to use my intuition. But try everything you are comfortable with. You need to do as much as you can do to achieve your goal.

11. Did you know that according to a recent issue of Health Magazine, only sixteen percent of those who are single are looking for a relationship? That's why striking up a conversation with someone appealing at the supermarket may not work for the long term. Signing up with your local dating service, instead, is a great idea. Timing, after all, is everything.



I met someone wonderful through your fine service. Lanie's moral support and encouragement helped me during the dating process. I have been having a wonderful time since I've met him. Thank you, Lanie!
Cindy, Springfield Ma
Dear Lanie, Mass Match has definitely exceeded my expectations. It was a great way to connect with someone special. I couldn't be happier at this moment.
Sam, Holyoke Ma
I moved to the Berkshires two years ago from a large city when my marriage ended. I'm in my 40's and now a single mom. I was attracted to the country lifestyle and thought it would be a great place to raise children. What I didn't realize is how hard it would be to connect with single men! The Berkshires are filled with talented, beautiful women, who far outnumber eligible single men. And because people are fairly isolated here, its difficult to meet other singles. A friend introduced me to Mass Match and really, it changed my life! They take a personal approach and only match people when they really think it would be appropriate for them to meet. Lanie is very wise about the dating scene, and able to coach her clients well. I've met so many great guys through Mass Match. I can't recommend it enough and have sent many of my friends to them for help. The cost of their services is so reasonable. Mass Match really cares, and many of the men I have met have become friends if we decided not to date further. I feel like I have a family here now. The best part about Mass Match is that you can always all or email her, if you want to talk about the dating process or ask for advice! It's a lot better than doing it yourself on the internet dating circuit!
Marie, Stockbridge Ma