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LOCAL. PRIVATE. AFFORDABLE.
We welcome all singles in western MA and neighboring communities.

"Best local dating service" three years in a row!
We're proud to have won Best Local Dating Service in three "Best of the Valley" reader polls. The last three years that the poll included a "local dating" category, Mass Match won first place each year! We'll let you know if they bring back the dating category this year, we're already off to a great start for 2014!

Accountability - No Fake Members!
With free dating sites, it is estimated that at least 10 percent of new accounts created each day are from scammers. And, a recent study shows married people posing as singles are nearly 6 times as likely as actual singles to visit online dating sites to find a serious relationship.

That's why you need a personal, private and affordable matchmaking service where people are who they say they are.

Private Profiles & Photos

Your profile & photo can only be viewed by members that our matchmaker has personally matched with you.

Who Are Mass Matchers?
They are singles from 20's-80's. With over half the adult population single for the first time in history, it is, oddly, ever more difficult to find the right person.

Where Are Mass Matchers From?
Folks from Western MA and neighboring communities in parts of NY, CT, NH and VT who love my prices and my personal approach.

WE WELCOME ALL SINGLES -- STRAIGHT AND GAY!

We Want to Find You The Right One, Not Just Anyone

Because Bud and I met though a dating service and got married, we want to provide the folks in our area a local, respectful and very affordable way to meet that special someone too! With our caring and personal support and coaching, we can help you bring a happy and satisfying relationship into your life. We believe that bringing people together by fostering the beginnings of healthy romantic relationships is an important individual and community service. We want to bring as many people together in Western Mass as possible, and NOW is a wonderful time to begin.
We Are:
  • Personal
  • Local
  • Discreet
And We:
  • Coach
  • Operate with care and integrity

Ask The Matchmaker

If you would like your dating question to appear on "Ask the Matchmaker" Click Here (Your real name will not be used)

I need some advice. I have been on dates recently with two women--with Alice 2 times and with Jane 3 times. They are both very nice but I don't think that either will work out for me.My options: let it be and if they contact me, gently tell them "no." Or should I contact each of them in a week or so by phone or email and tell them it isn't going to work out.

If there are other options, please let me know. I want to act in as unhurtful and ethical way as possible.
John in Northampton, Ma

Hi John,
To me a lot depends on the “relationship” you had with each woman and how you think they feel. You are in the dating and exploring stage, and hopefully your dates understand that. As a woman, if I liked you, nothing would feel good, but I would prefer to have an e-mail or call before I called you. E-mail versus calling is tricky. An e-mail doesn’t put the other person on the spot and at this early stage, should be fine. I would prefer the e-mail so I wouldn’t have to say anything back to you but both are acceptable. Being upfront with people, though brief and with no explanations and no reasons given, is the best approach, and your straightforwardness will be a great gift.
(Of course, if the dates were very, very casual, and if you think they don’t care one way or the other and that they are also exploring possibilities, it doesn’t matter as much.) If in doubt, err on the side of honesty and kindness.
Remember while ending a few casual dates on email may be the best choice so the person doesn’t have to think of something to say on the phone, breaking up with someone on email that you have been steadily seeing is never appropriate.
Worst of all: breaking up on a post-it: Remember Sex and the City?

Take Care,

Lanie

Dating Tip of the Day

Stay open to possibilities without compromising basic values and beliefs. Maria Headley, in her late 20's, had never been married and thought she was not thinking outside of the box in her quest for a husband. She decided to say "yes" to every date, every opportunity that came her way in the course of a year. One of her first dates was with a man 20 years older with 2 grownish kids -- way too complicated, she thought and outside of her parameters. Well, at the end of the year, she came back to him and is now happily married, loving the richness of their life together. All this is reported in "The Year of Yes (Hardcover)" by Maria Dahvana Headley. So remain open and don't sabotage yourself--you just never know!

Tip of the Day for Joining a Dating Service

If you are a woman in your 60's or older, the process may be more difficult. I don't encourage or discourage. It is up to you. We are getting great fellows. I had no idea what the database or demographics were when I met Bud, but I took a chance. It only takes one. Happily, we have had so many great "success" stories for women in their 50's and 60's and even some in their 70's in our five years of business.

Pete and Kate, Amherst


Hi Lanie! We were so happy to celebrate with you and Bud! What an incredible gift we have been given, through YOU! How cool is that? Do you just love your job at times like this?

Craig & Amy in Greenfield

We are amazed that we are truly matched on so many levels. Thank you so much,

Valerie & Alain in Westfield

We met on mass match just over two years ago and we both feel that we have met the loves of our lives...we now live together and are married thanks to Lanie who does an amazing job.

Jeanne and Carol, Northampton

Hi Lanie, I just wanted to let you know that Greg and I are going to be getting married in July. I wanted to thank you for introducing us.

Robin, Springfield

Multimedia & Press

Click the video player above for an interview with founders Lanie and Bud for WWLP-22News.

Recent press: Mass Match founders interviewed on the Jan 21, 2013 UMass Amherst "Family Business" Podcast:
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We've also been featured in Yankee Magazine, the Berkshire Eagle, the Springfield Republican, Hampshire Gazette, Parade Magazine, Business West and more...


Mass Match Welcomes Gays and Lesbians!

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Lanie, I would have paid you double if I had known I would meet my bride."

Married April 2012, Agawam

Dear Lanie,
I wanted to thank you profusely, for the wonderful miracle that Massmatch created in my life, connecting me to my fiancee and soulmate, Lynne. We had our initial coffee date early last March, became engaged in July, and will be married in October. The timing was perfect, as I was just about to publish my book, "Attention Late Bloomers: You're Right On Time!" (available on Amazon.com, by the way), and was able to include her in the book's dedications. Under the author photo, which Lynne took, I wrote that, as a "late bloomer" myself, I found my true love in my 50's.

I want to encourage all the "late bloomers" out there that it is possible, not just to find a match, but the RIGHT match in middle age and later in life! We are VERY happy together, and wish you and your Massmatch clients, all the joy in the world.
www.jerryposner.com

Love, Jerry Posner, West Stockbridge

When I describe Mass Match to my friends I use words like integrity, professionalism, understanding, and always seeking ways to improve the service. I feel fortunate to have this service available as another way to meet people

David, 58, Lenox

I met someone wonderful through your fine service. Lanie's moral support and encouragement helped me during the dating process. I have been having a wonderful time since I've met him. Thank you, Lanie!

Cindy, 37, Springfield


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